My painter

Even though fireworks are prohibited this year, you are still my favourite firework as you bring joy and colourful ideas into my life. Sometimes you explode because of anger. Yet, that paints our memories with ideas where and what to improve.

By Marwand

To My Angel

Although the UK left the EU, you are still in my heart ♥️ and mind. As a gardener that collects the flowers from the garden, I gathered my thoughts about you too today. I even put them into words—my darling like a firework you bring beauty and happiness into my life.

By Marwand

Words

Hi,

I apologize for what I said. Those words would shatter or even break a bridge. Let alone our bond. I take those words back. To rebuild the path of love, mercy and empathy between us. So we could walk to each other again to make unforgettable memories and fill each other’s mind with tranquillity.

Kind regards,

Marwand.

Clients first – the two word miracle

Clients first – the Two Word Miracle

By Joseph Callaway and JoAnn Callaway.

Three lessons from Clients First.

This book mainly focuses on three areas, honesty competence and caring, which are the foundation of a successful customer-brand relationship.

It does not matter whether you are a consultant or a shopkeeper, one thing is sure, a good business is based on customers or clients who trust you. Without a strong bond with customers, business will fail. But how do we create a strong bond with customers?

Lesson 1: Honesty – Clients can only trust you if you are honest.

By being honest. It does not only mean to tell the truth to your client. It also means telling the truth even if it may go against the interest of the business. Why? Clients will appreciate your honesty and become loyal to your business.

Lesson 2: Competence – Businesses with competence at every stage win clients.

By being competent. This is another approach which a business should implement in its interaction with clients. What does competence mean? It means showing the clients that an employee is an expert in what he or she does. Competence does not only come from working till you are the best. You acquire competence through a process of a continuous learning and development. It means learning non-stop.

Lesson 3: Care – Understand what the interest of your client is

Put your clients first. It means caring for the customers and not only for the salary. In a business context, caring is not about maternal feelings or providing a shoulder to cry on. But about understanding where the client’s interests lie. When customers notice that business is considering their interests, they are prepared to listen to the advice provided.

To summarize, put your clients first. Honesty, competence and caring are the keys to a successful business. Successfully implementing these aspects into your customer relationship will also distinguish your business from the rest.

Why are you so cold hearted?

Oh, Marwand.

Why are you so cold hearted?

No, I am not. When I saw you for the first time, my heart turned into a wildfire. No water could cool it down, and no drug could control it. No doctor, priest or imam could heal me.

Anybody who touched me, they burned their hand. Some said Marwand is cursed and left me in a hurry.

Because of this heat inside me, I turned many clothes and beds slowly into ashes. I have spent many sleepless nights, wondering what could be the cure?

However, on one blessed rainy day, when our lips touched,
you extinguished the wildfire and restored the balance.

But as soon as you left, the hell broke loose again. That is when I realised that you are the virus and cure.

By Marwand

Money: Master The Game

Anyone who wants to master money, and make it work for them should read this book. This book will teach you how to achieve financial freedom.

My reading notes.

1. Let your money work for you by compounding. 

Compounding is letting our money develop year after year, by allowing interest to build up. Assuming you invest $100 and this generates a 10% profit. If you leave the investment untouched, you’ll generate another 10% on $110 the year after, then on $121 the following year.

2. Put money into your investment fund, each month. 

According to the author, the first rule of financial security is to add money to your savings. If do not do this, our situation cannot improve. We should not consider this as a boring process. Instead, see it as a freedom fund which is like a personal ATM. Where we can place and withdraw funds. The author recommends aiming to save 10% of our income.

3. We should not fall for investment myths, but do our homework and research the best places for our cash. 

We should never invest if we don’t know the market. Therefore, sometimes it could be wise to use the services of professionals to manage our investments. But who?

The author argues that financial professionals do not know what is best for your or your money. Many people let stockbrokers manage their investment funds, but they get paid, whether we profit or not. Their job is to sell our things, whether good or bad. In other words, they want to earn their income even if it means selling your stocks for less than you bought it.

Unlike stockbrokers, fiduciaries are professionals required by law to have no other interests except your own. You can trust their advice.

You can also learn to invest on your own, but bear in mind the following rules: do your research, learn about what other successful people did with their investment, and be cautious.

4. Consider your financial goal.

It is important to consider how much money do you think you’ll need to feel completely free from financial stress? Is it a couple of hundred dollars, or a few thousand or a few million?

Once we have answers to these questions, then we can start thinking about how and how much money we want to invest.

5. The path to financial freedom could be slow, but don’t give up.

You will not only be distracted by self-doubt but also by short-term thinking. “Many people overestimate what they can accomplish in a year, but then underestimate what they can accomplish in a decade”.

6. You should diversify your investments to make the most of your freedom fund. 

Have you saved enough money in your investment fund? It is time to diversify your investments. But where?

You can invest in Bonds. They don’t offer massive returns but are also unlikely to lose value.

You can invest in Equities. Meaning stocks and shares.

7. Take advice from smart investors to guide you. 

If you want to be successful in anything, it is wise to learn from those who have been successful before you. If we analyze and copy what other successful investors have done, we’ll have a much better chance of reaching our goals.

Ray Dalio could be a good role model. He founded Bridgewater Associatiotes, the largest hedge fund in the world.

Ray Dalio recommends putting 7.5 percent of your assets in gold and 7.5 percent in commodities. Gold and commodities are often good investments, even during periods of high inflation. Then put 30 percent in stocks, especially during seasons of high growth in which you can earn more. Finally, put 55 percent into US bonds. 

 

How do I keep my wife happy?

Someone has asked me, how do I keep my wife happy?

Well, you should keep her love tank full, by speaking her love language. According to psychologists, “the need to feel loved is a most basic fundamental need”. As famous Persian poet said, “through love thorns become roses”. Our love tank needs to be filled regularly. This is the burning desire of every human being. Those who know how to fill it, have a happy and healthy relationship. Those who do not suffer.

It is very important to speak the love language of your partner. The way people perceive love differs. Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet, ironing a shirt, or cooking a meal as filling their “love tank.” Some partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued: holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact.

You can buy regular gifts for your wife and assume that she will feel loved. But what if she feels loved and valued by words of affirmation which she never hears.

Therefore, to make our partners feel valued and loved, we should understand their love language. Dr Gary Chapman marriage counsellor for more than 30 years has identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.

1. Words of Affirmation – Encourage, affirm, appreciate, empathise, listen actively. Encourage your partner so they achieve their goals. Compliment them on what they do for you. As Mark Twain noted, “some people live for two months on a good compliment”. Do not take it for granted. Say kind words. Soft answers turn away anger. Do not fight fire with fire. Be soft when they are angry.

2. Quality time – giving undivided attention. Focused eye contact, sharing experience, thoughts, feelings, desires in an amicable uninterrupted context. Uninterrupted and focused conversation. One-on-one time is essential.

3. Reviving Gifts – giving gifts is a sign that we think about them. Thoughtfulness, make your partner a priority. Give thoughtful gifts and gestures. Small things matter in a big way. Express your gratitude when receiving gifts.

4. Acts of service – do things for your partner that they like you do. This way you seek to please her by serving her to express love for her doing things for her. Make them breakfast and cook. Helping with chores will ease the burden of responsibility. Make requests, not demands.

5. Physical touch – non-verbal use body language and touch to emphasise love.

How do you discover the love language of your wife?

Observe how your wife often expresses love to others. If she regularly doing acts of service to others, this might be her love language. If she consistently, verbally affirming people, then words of affirmation is her love language. When you go on a business trip and come back. And your wife says you didn’t bring me anything? This is an indication that gifts is her love language. When she says we do not spend time together, this indicates the quality time.

How does it feel to marry your high school crush?

They are as a rose and water. My uncle was 16 when he met his wife who was 14 at their high school in Kabul, Afghanistan. They married when he was 25, and she was 23 in 1993. The newlywed’s honeymoon was not in Bali. Their new life started with the lack of food in cold winters and punishing hot summers of Kabul. Where the rain of bullets and rockets torn apart a lover from her beloved, a mother of her child and a rose from its roots. Although destiny kept the newlywed alive it turned them into refugees in their own city. Love and hope made them move from town to town till they reached the peaceful Netherlands. Here they have built a new life. Rose gave birth to three petals. Three children, now age 22, 20, and 16. The water and a rose are still inseparable. They are healthy and fresh. Their relationship is full of passion and love.

By Marwand

7 Habits of Highly Effective People

 

Habit 1 – Be Proactive – You are the programmer. 

This habit means that our life is the product of our values and not feelings. It is the product of our decisions and not conditions. Proactivity means taking responsibility, taking an initiative to do everything required to make good things happen. The author is using the computer metaphor to elucidate that habit 1 is the awareness that we are the programmers of our future.

Habit 2 – Begin with End in Mind. You write your programme. 

Habit 2 provides, we write our programme that meets our needs and values and not others. Habit 1 is having a personal vision. Meaning, we have a personal power to choose our response based on our values. Habit 2 is about personal leadership. We are the leaders of our own life. It is our mental creation or a blueprint. We want to achieve or create. It is an end in mind picture. It is like having a picture of a jigsaw puzzle and then putting the puzzles together. How useful is it when we begin a project with an end in mind.

Habit 3 – Put first thing first. You run the programme. 

This habit is about personal management. As mentioned, habit one begins with that we are the programmers. Habit 2 starts with having an end in mind. We as should have the mental image of our programme and write it. Habit 3 is about running the programme. We execute this programme. We put first thing first.

The opposite of habit 3, will be putting second or third thing first. But as J.W. Goethe said, “things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.”

Habit 4 – Think Win-Win. 

This habit lies in the heart of all relationships. It is the habit of mutual benefit. It is the paradigm of abundance. Meaning, there is plenty out there for everyone. You don’t need to despair. The strength of other people should not threaten us. We can nurture competencies around us. We can share our knowledge, recognition, gain or profit with others. Why? Because of abundance. We should not think win-lose but instead, focus on the situation which is acceptable and beneficial to all parties. As a result, we will get our fair share and build strong, lasting positive relationships with others.

Habit 5 – Seek First to Understand, Then To Be Understood.

When we are confronted with a problem, we regularly jump right to prescribing a solution. That is wrong. We must first take time to listen to the other person and then make recommendations.

Habit 6 – Synergize.

Together everyone one achieves more. It is producing something which we could not have been able to create alone.

Habit 7 – Sharpen the saw. 

This habit is about the constant renewal of all parts of our life. Which includes the physical, mental, the spiritual and the social-emotional dimension. The continual nourishment of these aspects is essential to combat the inevitable complacency and stagnation.  So we can stay effective in the long term.

 

Superfood

What are superfoods? According to David Wolf, superfoods are both a food and a medicine; they have elements of both. They are a class of the most potent, super-concentrated, and nutrient-rich foods on the planet—they have more bang for the buck than our usual foods. Extremely tasty and satisfying, superfoods have the ability to tremendously increase the vital force and energy of one’s body and are the optimum choice for improving overall health, boosting the immune system, elevating serotonin production, enhancing sexuality, and cleansing and alkalizing the body. Superfoods meet and exceed all our protein requirements, our vitamin and mineral requirements, glyconutrient (essential polysaccharide sugar) requirements, essential fatty acid requirements, immune system requirements, and so much more. Nourishing us at the deepest level possible, they are the true fuel of today’s “superhero.”

Conventional foods do not contain enough nutrients, most of it are nothing but empty calories. However, eating superfood will guarantee us with the right nutrients to be healthy all the years of our life. Superfoods are consumed in a raw and organic form. They restore enzyme deficiencies and create enzyme abundance.
Superfoods are the great source of clean, hormone free pesticides and chemical free: 
  • Protein
  • Minerals
  • Antioxidants
  • Enzymes
  • Coenzymes
  • Good fats and oils
  • Essential fatty acids
  • Essential Amino acids
  • Polysaccharides
  • Glyconutrients
The top 10 Superfoods are: 
  1. Goji berries – (the longevity fruit).
  2. Cacao
  3. Maca
  4. Bee products (honey, bee pollen, propolis, and royal jelly)
  5. Spirulina
  6. AFA blue-green algae
  7. Marine phytoplankton
  8. Aloe vera
  9. Hempseed
  10. Coconuts and coconut products.
Goji berries
  • Boost immune function,
  • Increase alkalinity
  • Boost immune function,
  • Increase alkalinity and vitality, provide liver protection, improve eyesight and blood quality, deliver anti-aging compounds. Longevity, Stamina, Sexual Energy.
  • Contain nineteen different amino acids (on par with bee pollen) and all eight essential amino acids (such as adrenal-supporting phenylalanine and serotonin-building tryptophan).
  • Goji berries can contain twenty-one or more trace minerals (the main ones being zinc, iron, copper, calcium, germanium, selenium, and phosphorus) as well as vitamins B1, B2, B6, and vitamin E.
  • Mature goji berries can contain about 11 mg of blood-building iron per 100 grams (2–3 handfuls) as well as beta-sitosterol (an anti-inflammatory agent), linoleic acid (an essential fatty acid), anti-aging sesquiterpenoids (cyperone, solavetivone), liver-healing betaine (0.1 percent), and antioxidant tetraterpenoids (zeaxanthin, physalin). Goji berries are some of the highest antioxidant-containing foods in the world. They typically contain two to four times the amount of antioxidants found in blueberries.
  • As we age, we produce less and less Human Growth Hormone (HGH). Decreasing levels of HGH have been linked to symptoms of ageing. Goji berries are the only food known to help stimulate the human body to produce more HGH naturally.
  • Only food to increase HGH
  • World’s greatest anti-aging food.
  • Improves Vision – Highest zeasnthin content
  • Advice: Rich, Red colour moist, 100% raw and organic.
Cacao (Cocolate)
  • Species: “the food of the Gods”
  • Most Antioxidants of any food.
  • #1 source of Magnesium,
  • The Most deficient mineral
  • Heart Health: blood flow, oxygen, nutrients,
  • Bowel movement
  • Bone Health
  • Theobromine
Maca Root – Libido & Strength.
  • Peeruvian Andes foro 2,600 yrs
  • Aka Andes Aphrodisiac
  • Cruciferous family
  • Incan Warriors
  • Grown on Highest altitude crop on earth.
  • Benefits:
  • Libido-enhancing, fertility,
  • Strength / Stamina, Adaptogen
  • Menstrual irregularities.
  • Use a table spoon in your smoothies.

Do you want to know more, when and how much to eat? buy the book and read it.